We feel compelled to pull back the curtain a bit as to how we decide the title of our blog posts. First, we start out with a concept; this post, for example, we knew we wanted to be about having a balanced, fulfilled weekend. Once we know the topic, we take a look at a few SEO (fancy acronym for: what are people typing into search engines, like Google) tools us bloggers have available to see what will help our articles get in front of the most people, getting the message behind The Busy Bee heard. So, we start trying out variations of what we want to write about, and look to see what words will help that goal. Well, we were a bit surprised to find that “how to be happier” ranked really high when it came to what people are searching for.
And, wow, that really hit home.
Let’s Talk About How to Be Happier
Happiness is a fickle thing. Fleeting, but wonderful. Beautiful, but inconsistent. Wouldn’t it be lovely to always feel happy, to always feel balanced, motivated and full of life?
But, life, in all its chaos, moves a mile a minute with new and unforeseen obstacles in our way every day. As business owners, we can’t tell you how many times we wake up, thinking we know how our days are going to go, and a new challenge arises out of the blue. Add marriage, parenthood, friendship, house chores, and everything else we do every day, and it’s really easy to feel overwhelmed.
Being overwhelmed doesn’t feel good – and so you end up wondering, “Is this it?” This can create a feeling of unhappiness around and within you, and before you know it, you’re Googling “how to be happier” into your search bar, trying to find a way to ease the overwhelm in your heart and mind.
So, what’s the answer?
Of course, we wish we had a one-size-fits-all answer for you; but, as expected, we’re all individuals with distinct needs, desires, and goals. And, let’s state the obvious here: we’re not always happy all the time either. We, like everyone else, have our ups and downs, our days when the glass is half full and days when it’s half empty.
But we can tell you, with conviction, that there are three basic things you can focus on that will “boost your mood” (our original SEO key phrase), leading you to being a happier version of yourself. And, remember, we’re not experts on this topic at all, just two women trying to find happiness and balance (just like you!).
We want you to enjoy your weekend. So if your mood could actually use a little boost, read on, friend. Because we have some tried-and-true suggestions for you!
How to Be Happier: 3 Ways to Boost Your Mood for the Weekend
Do This: Connect
Our souls ache for connection, whether we’re aware of it or not. Think you’re an introvert? Introverts need connection. In a bad mood so you decide you’d rather not deal with humans this weekend? You might want to reconsider.
Connecting with another person on a real, raw level quenches your innate desire to have meaningful relationships that fill you up, but you can be strategic about who you connect with. Be mindful of the people who lift you up and those who pull you down. Personally, we have each other but also go-to friends that are always there for a laugh or great listeners when we really just want to vent. When you’re trying to boost your mood, connect with someone who cheers for you and wants you to succeed. (And, in return, be that person when others need it too!)
Simple Ways to Connect
Here are some simple ways to connect with someone over the weekend:
1.) Give an old friend a call. You’ll be surprised how it feels like no time’s gone by! Let your significant other and/or children know that you’ll be dedicating a certain amount of time for this conversation with limited availability to pour snacks and deal with arguments. (Moms, you know what we’re talking about!)
2.) Meet up with a local friend for a stroll through a park. This allows you to casually chat while getting in some exercise and fresh air. Alternatively, find a local coffee shop and spend time connecting over a hot beverage and tasty treats.
3.) Connect with your children by dedicating time to a family activity. Put the phones down and truly immerse yourself (and your significant other and anyone else living under your roof) in an activity, such as a puzzle, board game or family movie night. Even if you have teens who aren’t excited for this, you’ll notice them soften a bit and enjoy this dedicated family time when social media and peer pressures don’t exist. It’s mood boosting for everyone!
4.) Our significant other is supposedly the closest people to us but with the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it might not always feel that way. Find time to connect with them, which means you both agree to put down phones, turn off the television and chat. We love to pour a fresh glass of wine with simple appetizers like cheese and crackers on our back patio to catch up and wind down – together.
Do This: Restore
Take some time to restore your mind, body and soul this weekend. This looks different for everyone, too, so make it what speaks to you.
Here’s what we do to restore ourselves over the weekend.
Jenna: Self-restoration for me looks like church on a Sunday, putting my phone down, getting outside or reading a book. I also recommend changing out bedsheets for a fresh and restful oasis on a Sunday night.
Shannon: For the most part, I unplug! I also love going to the farmer’s market, church, lots of family walks, slow cooker meals, and enjoying a glass of wine and a bowl of popcorn with Bobby at night.
Laurie: During baseball and football seasons, I love to put down my phone and fully focus on the game. It’s restorative just focusing on one individual thing instead of doing the constant multitasking I do all week. Also, I love, love, love to disappear into a book.
Noticing a common theme here? Team TBB whole-heartedly suggests putting down phones to restore.
Sound unappetizing? Just try it. Set a timer for an hour on Saturday and walk away from your phone. It is empowering. Also, if you are watching a movie, put down the phone. It’s too often that our attention is literally split between multiple screens at once, with our phone’s screen pulling us away from where our attention should be.
This simple action (plus, changing your bedsheets for Sunday night – a ritual that is oddly satisfying!) will restore your mind, body and soul in unexpectedly welcome ways.
Do This: Elevate
Elevate someone else. Surprised to see a focus on someone else when this whole article is about boosting your mood?
Small acts of kindness for others go a long way for your own happiness. According to the Random Acts of Kindness Foundation, there are scientifically-proven benefits to performing random acts of kindness to others. From a shot of oxytocin (the “love” hormone) and serotonin (the “feel good” hormone) to increased energy, happiness, and lifespan, going out of your way to be kind to others has benefits for both the receiver and giver of kindness.
So, elevate someone else’s day and feel the benefits in your own day too. Make their weekend better. Help them smile. Give them a compliment.
And watch how it lifts you up, as well.
Put it Into Action
Here are some easy ideas on how to elevate someone else’s day:
Send a “just because” text, email or physical card. Tell your family member or friend what they mean to you for no reason other than you wanted them to know. This surprise act of kindness will give them a smile and make them feel loved. (Just writing this is making us smile!)
Pay for someone’s coffee. Grabbing a cup of Joe from your local coffee place? Offer $5 to the cashier to help pay the next person’s order.
This one’s so simple but makes such a difference: give your child or significant other a “good morning” hug, “just because.” He or she might seem confused or surprised by this, but embracing your kiddo or significant other is a simple reminder that you love them, giving them an unexpected mood boost.
How to Be Happier: The Takeaway
Imagine if you were always happy. It wouldn’t feel as special or meaningful, would it? Happiness comes and goes, teaching us to cherish it while it graces our worlds.
Still, if you’re feeling a bit grumpy or crummy after a particularly rough week (we’ve been there!), and you need a little dose of happiness, these suggestions are simple, mostly free ways to help boost your mood, inviting you to be happier and an overall healthier version of yourself.
If you take anything away from this article, let it be this: put down the screens and connect with your people. It might quite literally feel unnatural to unplug, but it is so, so good for the soul.
Finally, if you have a tried-and-true way YOU boost your mood, please comment below or tag us on social @thebusybee.co! Let’s spread the love and joy so we can all lift each other up and move together through this thing we call life.
With so much love,
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